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In Transactional Analysis, the “stroke economy” is a concept developed by Claude Steiner that describes the restrictive social and internal rules that govern how we give, ask for, and accept affection and recognition (known as “strokes”). [1, 2]
While human recognition is naturally abundant, these societal rules create an artificial scarcity, leading to emotional deprivation. [1, 2, 3, 4]
The Five Restrictive Rules
The stroke economy is maintained by five unspoken rules: [1, 2]
- Don’t give strokes you would like to give.
- Don’t ask for strokes you would like to get.
- Don’t accept strokes you would like to accept.
- Don’t reject strokes you don’t want to receive.
- Don’t give yourself strokes (i.e., self-praise or self-appreciation). [1]
The Impact
Because people naturally crave acknowledgement to regulate their self-esteem and emotional state, this scarcity causes “stroke hunger”. When positive recognition is withheld, individuals often settle for negative strokes (e.g., criticism, arguments, or pity) just to satisfy their need for attention. [1, 2]
Moving to Abundance
To break free from this cycle, psychologists suggest adopting an “abundance” mindset. This involves actively rejecting the restrictive rules by consciously giving genuine praise, asking for the acknowledgement you need, gracefully accepting compliments, and validating yourself. [1, 2, 3, 4, 5]
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